I Don't Play Piano

Is there anything you can't do? 

I've heard this question countless times over my life.  I know how to do a lot of things.  Most of them aren't really useful. 

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult,  just about a year ago.  Even after learning this about myself, it took a while before I realized my insatiable need to do everything stemmed from ADHD. When I see someone with a talent I don't have I instantly want to develop it.  This has led me to a lot of weird skills.  It has also caused a lot of stress,  anxiety, and depression. 

I also have a tendency to be a bit of a control freak.  I want things done the way I would do it, the right way obviously, so when the people in my life aren't committed to my way,  I take over.  

A few years ago I attended a series of personal development trainings and classes. During one of my conversations with the instructor,  I was talking about how my kids don't load the dishwasher right so it's easier to just do it myself.  Her response was “Done is better than perfect.”

She asked me if I really wanted to be responsible for all the household chores myself for the rest of forever because I wouldn't allow anyone else to do it differently than me.  

I really didn't. 

I have gotten better at allowing others to do things differently,  but it is still an internal battle I struggle with.  I still get jealous when someone has an amazing skill I don't have, but I now recognize the hyper-focus and obsession that occurs and I'm getting better at differentiating between that and true interest. 

I don't play the piano.  I don't know how to build roads.  I don't understand particle physics,  or even regular physics most of the time. I can't fly a plane or build a car.  The list goes on and on.

And I'm ok with it.  

It still takes a lot of remembering that I don't actually want to know everything.  It's exhausting.  I'm so grateful for the skills and abilities of everyone that exists in this world,  and that God created us each with our own talents and abilities so we can bless each other. 

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